Haiti's sorrow!!!

The day since the news of the Haiti earthquake broke out blaring in all the news channels and newspapers, I had been thinking of writing down a post about the quake. But today I suddenly felt , may be I shouldn’t write cos I don’t know how is it to see your family dying beside you, I don’t know how is it to see buildings crumble upon you, I don’t know how is it to see people dying around you without food, I don’t know how is it to see bodies being scattered all over, I don’t know how is it to see the dead being mass buried without a decent burial, I don’t know how is it to die at heart and live and I don’t know what is it when one day you wake up to find the world turned upside down.
I won’t tell that yes, I can feel the pain of what lakhs of homeless people are facing out there because I know I or you are here and not there. The pictures in the news channels and papers are very disturbing. In a Hindu paper, a picture of a man dumping bodies was shown. The dead can’t even hope for a better grave. Nature has shown its worst form of fury but why Haiti? Nobody can or has questioned Nature’s doings. We see, we cry, we fear but we live again. Life moves on no matter what comes upon.
Let us join to pray homage to those who are suffering the loss of loved one out in Haiti. Let us pray for God to give them strength and the mind to accept what is gone however painful it may seem. Let us pray for the dead for their souls to rest.
All said, I still feel I can’t feel the real pain which has created numbness all over Haiti. I just hope to cling on to this quote.

‘There has never been any darkness that has never given to light’

Am I with the Right Partner????

I just came across this article few days back.. just sharing it over here...
During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?" the author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author. Here's the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle...In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet.." Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found. People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner). Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know and apply these laws, the results are predictable. Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO!!

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Don't compare your life to others'. You have no Idea what their journey is all about!!!
-Theion

My battle with an ulcer

I was just trying to gobble up an entire plate of bhel poori when I experienced the most painful moment of my life. I just couldn’t have any more of my favorite dish because it was my mouth ulcer that was probing with pain each time something spicy went inside my mouth.

Reluctantly, I resorted myself to all that contained only sugar, water or salt. In short, I was living on a diet which only patients consumed. That was not all. For a week, not only had I difficulty with food but I even had a tough time with talking to people. I was living the life of a dumb person trying to communicate in a sign language. And when my friends couldn’t understand a thing, I was like ‘God save meeeeee’. It was in this instant I realized how hard it must be for the dumb to communicate across and how frustrating when the person opposite doesn’t seem to understand.

And so it went on a week, me trying to battle the mouth ulcer with numerous tips given by my close pals and the google also.

1. Gargle with salt water thrice a day( I did and it just hurt like hell)
2. Change your toothpaste which doesn’t contain sodium laureth sulphate ( I dutifully dumped my toothpaste to get a new one)
3. Consume Vitamin B complex tablets (I did- I can’t write the side effects hereJ)
4. Have ounces of water ( and stay in the loo)
5. Have some age old primitive greens ( which tastes like yuk )

After all this, the ulcer would remain stuck to my mouth hurting me at every possible encounter with food and forcing me to use the sign language as often as possible. Man that was one hell of a week of my life.

Anyway, one night, after the thought of me having mouth cancer crowded my mind, with horrible imagination of dying without reason entered, I knew I had to see the doctor.

The doctor’s visit was one hilarious experience. The doc who seemed not more than 50, dashed out a list of tablets and ointments which burnt a hole of 300 rupees in my pocket. I wouldn’t have worried about the money. What got me worried was that he declared the ulcer as a ‘STRESS ULCER’. I wanted to laugh right away, but I didn’t. I knew I hadn’t taken stress so hard to give myself an ulcer. I wondered then, if stress could give an ulcer, three fourth of the world’s population would have been affected by a mouth ulcer.

It was only after the doc’s visit that I actually developed stress but miraculously the next day, the ulcer started diminishing to my utter surprise. What worked is not known to me but I will never forget the stress ulcer which gave me the utmost stress.

To be in love

"If I could have, I would wish to wake everyday to the sound of your breath on my neck, the warmth of your lips on my cheek, the touch of your fingers on my skin, and the feel of your heart beating with mine knowing that I could never find that feeling with anyone other than you"